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Virgins And What The Heck Is Patriarchy?!

So this post is some food for thought and something new for some of you to discover and think about. It is my personal beliefs and opinions on the matter so take what you would like to and leave what you don't.

Patriarchy what it means and how it effects us in my opinion is a HUGE problem and something we all need to be conscious of. We live in a world of patriarchy currently some of us are oblivious to it but a lot of us are now choosing to stand up to the way things have been, the way things still are and we are slowly making progress but to be successful more of us need to be on board.

The literal meaning I have got off the Internet is as follows:

"a system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is reckoned through the male line."

"a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it."

Patriarchy to me is an imbalance of masculine to feminine energy, which we both have inside of each and every one of us it is just energy so if it helps call it hard and soft energy, and it needs to be balanced in both men and woman. As humans male and female are both effected by it physically and mentally and it is time to make some much needed changes.

It is causing a world where rape of woman has become normalised and in the past has been encouraged. Where woman are a lot of the time seen as sex symbols, an object for men to fuck rather than the soft, feminine, loving and equally sexual if put in the right environment, compliment to the male. A world where suicide has sky rocketed, I believe because of the "hard" mentality of some men and some woman, the pressure to be of a certain stereo type e.g crying and communication is for pussy's, men don't have feelings and woman feel to much, look a certain way, be a certain way, make enough money and the list goes on.

Patriarchy can manifest for woman into physical symptoms such as PCOS, endometriosis, stress, anxiety, depression, the feeling of low self worth and low self esteem as well of course sexual shame, guilt and suppression, fear, man hating, low libido and of course so much more but that is just scratching the surface.

For men, they have also been hit pretty badly by it in the sense that they are taught and role modelled not to FEEL, not to cry, not to communicate there own needs and worries, and for some sex has also been distorted into something they have rights to, or for some they may also feel shame or anxiety and guilt around their sex life. A lot of men have also not been taught about woman's needs or desires or sexuality because of patriarchy.

And don't even get me started on the worlds views of Homosexuality. 😡

Patriarchy and the take over of Christianity many years ago has had a huge effect on the way we view sex. In old beliefs, that were in place before patriarchy and Christianity took over, sex was considered a natural act to be had by all not something dirty or to be ashamed of but something to be celebrated and something sacred that was at times preformed in rituals. Homosexuality and heterosexuality where equal to each other and as it should be! Each to there own preferences which is how the world is meant to be!

Woman were worshipped and did you know the word Virgin originally meant purely just not married, not belonging to a man, a woman who is "one-in-herself" aka an independent woman, not a woman who wasn't sexually active, but sexually independent.

Here is some interesting information I found online if you would like to have a lookie:

"Ancient moon priestesses were called virgins. "Virgin" meant not married, not belonging to a man-a woman who was "one-in-herself." The very word dervies from a Latin root meaning strength, force, skill; and was later applied to men: virle. Ishtar, Diana, Astarte, Isis were all called virgin, which did not refer to sexual chasity, but sexual independence. And all great culture heroes of the past, mythic or historic, were said to be born of virigin mothers: Marduk, Gilgamesh, Buddha, Osiris, Dionysus, Genghis Khan, Jesus-they were all affirmed as sons of the Great Mother, of the Original Onem their worldly power deriving from her. When the Hebrews used the word, and in the original Aramaic, it meant "maiden" or "young woman," with no connotations of sexual chasity. But later Christian translators could not conceive of the "Virgin Mary" as a woman of independent sexuality, needless to say; they distorted the meaning into sexually pure, chaste, never touched. When Joan of Arc, with her witch coven associations, was called La Pucelle-"The Maiden," "the Virgin"- the word retained some of its original pagan sesne of a strong and independent woman." The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth

I am definitely not saying that woman rule males drool, only that the energy needs to come back into balance and to do that we all have to work on softening our approach and opening our minds to a different way of being.

Sex is natural and not something to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about. We use it to reproduce for goodness sake! It is something we should do out of love for ourselves and out of love for our partner, it connects us on a deeper more soulful level with ourselves and our lovers. Weather you like it solo, in a couple, groups or with the same sex it does not matter. As long as ALL people involved agree to the terms in which you do it, how you do it and you are loving the experience I don't see how that can be something to distaste over. Stand up to patriarchy! Have lots of sex and be proud of it in whatever form it flows! Respect it and you will learn to break away the chains of patriarchy on your beautiful, sex filled life.

Lots of Love Amy Dee xx

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